Learning to be single
This is an odd title I know. "Learning to be single" for a married person. I was single 13 years ago. I didn't marry until I was 41. I considered myself a successful single person. At church yesterday, we have an awesome minister Nolan Wolfe, who preached. It was the climax to the youth revival. I wish more of the young people could have heard him. Including two nieces, one on my side and one on my husband's side. Both nephews. He was 35 and single and very confident. I love to see that. He was interesting. He said this and this sounds crazy, but when you think about it, it makes sense. He said that he was glad that God was a stalker. When you think about what he said God did stalk us. We tried to run away and God followed us, He wouldn't give up on us.
Learning to be single. At the age of 13 or 14, the girls and boys get interested in each other. I am sure with society trying to make the younger girls look older and other things it might be earlier. For some reason the girls with brillant minds start to act dumb so they can impress a boy. Somewhere in the mix, both sexes start listening to hormones and if not channeled into productive energy, it can lead to trouble. With the absence of fathers in the home, girls go looking for love in all the wrong places, they hook up with a bad boy. One who thinks that his manhood is having sex. He is sometimes abusive to the girl verbally and sometimes physically. This is because he comes from an abusive enviroment and doesn't know how to treat a girl. He has seen dad or mama's boyfriends cuss her or beat her and then he thinks that how women should be treated. The next thing you know they are sexually active, for some reason the girl listens to the boy when he tells her , you can't get pregnant the first time. I'll be here for you, ect. These are lies and they have been around for a long time. Society says they are going to have sex, so lets hand out birth control, teaching abstence is unrealistic. I worked at one church with the "True Love Waits" progrm. In that you tech the youth that if a person loves you as they say they do, they will wait for marriage. If this person loves you, they want to best for you and they won't pressure you in to somehing that you are not ready for. Yesterday the minister said "If a man or woman is not faithful to God, they won't be faithful to you." Someone also told me to watch how a man treats his mother, that a good indication on how they will treat you.
Being a successful single person involves being able to take care of yourself. You don't depend on a man to get stuff for you. You should be able to take care of yourself. My uncle and some of us did volunteer work at the Women's Resource Center, there were a lot of women who fled abusive relationships. They had gotten married right of high school or before finishing high school and had no skills. They married to get away from home. They stayed in the relationship too long, because they were afraid to leave. With no skills you can't take care of yourself. You have to go to school to get a job. Don't depend on the government to take care of you. The government is there in case you need help. not as a way of life. You might be in a great relationship, he or she may be everything you hoped for, but what if they got sick or imjured and couldn't work. There you are, trying to find a job, get trainning when you could have done it earlier. In today's world, your prince may come, but there are some chinks in his armour. In this economy, there aren't a lot of good paying jobs, he might have a job at Wal-Mart. At least he is working, you might have to work too.
I learned how to be single, because my mom wanted me and Sharon to be able to take care of ourselves. I started my career at 19 and went to school.. I worked and saved money for ten years and was able to buy a home. With Gods help, I was able to put a new roof and windows in it. Buy appliances for it and everything. When I met my husband, he was a nice man. A little misguided and cynical about life. I didn't need to marry to get things. I already had them. I was content with my own company. That wasn't always the case. I had had enough bad dates and relationships that I knew what I didn't want. People said I was too picky. I was ready to stay single. I told God, "If thats all that is available I'll stay single". I meant that. I had to change churches because during that time I was at a church that had a great singles ministry and then we got a new pastor, who basically said that if you weren't married you were out of Gods will. Some of the women didn't want me around their husbands. I didn't understand why, I was not that kind of woman. I changed churches. People don't understand that singles have more time to do things in the kingdom of God. Now there are a lot of single parents in the church. They need to be aware of the resources that are available to them
Being single is not as glamorous as they make it on TV. You can be successful at it. I was telling my husband, that we know how to be single. We could do a singles ministry. It is just something that God hasn't called us to do.
Learning to be single. At the age of 13 or 14, the girls and boys get interested in each other. I am sure with society trying to make the younger girls look older and other things it might be earlier. For some reason the girls with brillant minds start to act dumb so they can impress a boy. Somewhere in the mix, both sexes start listening to hormones and if not channeled into productive energy, it can lead to trouble. With the absence of fathers in the home, girls go looking for love in all the wrong places, they hook up with a bad boy. One who thinks that his manhood is having sex. He is sometimes abusive to the girl verbally and sometimes physically. This is because he comes from an abusive enviroment and doesn't know how to treat a girl. He has seen dad or mama's boyfriends cuss her or beat her and then he thinks that how women should be treated. The next thing you know they are sexually active, for some reason the girl listens to the boy when he tells her , you can't get pregnant the first time. I'll be here for you, ect. These are lies and they have been around for a long time. Society says they are going to have sex, so lets hand out birth control, teaching abstence is unrealistic. I worked at one church with the "True Love Waits" progrm. In that you tech the youth that if a person loves you as they say they do, they will wait for marriage. If this person loves you, they want to best for you and they won't pressure you in to somehing that you are not ready for. Yesterday the minister said "If a man or woman is not faithful to God, they won't be faithful to you." Someone also told me to watch how a man treats his mother, that a good indication on how they will treat you.
Being a successful single person involves being able to take care of yourself. You don't depend on a man to get stuff for you. You should be able to take care of yourself. My uncle and some of us did volunteer work at the Women's Resource Center, there were a lot of women who fled abusive relationships. They had gotten married right of high school or before finishing high school and had no skills. They married to get away from home. They stayed in the relationship too long, because they were afraid to leave. With no skills you can't take care of yourself. You have to go to school to get a job. Don't depend on the government to take care of you. The government is there in case you need help. not as a way of life. You might be in a great relationship, he or she may be everything you hoped for, but what if they got sick or imjured and couldn't work. There you are, trying to find a job, get trainning when you could have done it earlier. In today's world, your prince may come, but there are some chinks in his armour. In this economy, there aren't a lot of good paying jobs, he might have a job at Wal-Mart. At least he is working, you might have to work too.
I learned how to be single, because my mom wanted me and Sharon to be able to take care of ourselves. I started my career at 19 and went to school.. I worked and saved money for ten years and was able to buy a home. With Gods help, I was able to put a new roof and windows in it. Buy appliances for it and everything. When I met my husband, he was a nice man. A little misguided and cynical about life. I didn't need to marry to get things. I already had them. I was content with my own company. That wasn't always the case. I had had enough bad dates and relationships that I knew what I didn't want. People said I was too picky. I was ready to stay single. I told God, "If thats all that is available I'll stay single". I meant that. I had to change churches because during that time I was at a church that had a great singles ministry and then we got a new pastor, who basically said that if you weren't married you were out of Gods will. Some of the women didn't want me around their husbands. I didn't understand why, I was not that kind of woman. I changed churches. People don't understand that singles have more time to do things in the kingdom of God. Now there are a lot of single parents in the church. They need to be aware of the resources that are available to them
Being single is not as glamorous as they make it on TV. You can be successful at it. I was telling my husband, that we know how to be single. We could do a singles ministry. It is just something that God hasn't called us to do.
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