How I met My Husband Follow up
On Valentines Day I wrote the blog, "How I met My husband". Someone had some questions so I figured I would do a follow up to this.
Matt and I worked together for at least five years before we started dating. In radio there are moments where everything is smooth and there are no problems, and then there are the times, that equipment doesn't work. Tempers flare and I think we had seen each other at our worst. Matt and Charlie Marlow were installing equipment and they both were sick and they wanted what ever it was installed right away and they had been up all night working. You just learn the temperment of a person. Matt doesn't like you asking a lot of questions while he is working on something. I had to learn that. My dad is the same way. We kept our romance away from the radio station. When we married we were on the air together for a while, we kept home and work separated. That is the way it had to be. In order for us to get along.
The other question was "How did he take the fact I was a born again Christian? Matt liked that I was committed to my faith. His grandmother was a strong Christian woman and he liked that about me. I was plain spoken and down to earth. Sometimes people are so "Heavenly minded that they are no earthly good". My being a Christian is as much a part of me as living. I don't act one way in church and a different way at home. I am not perfect. I make mistakes. What got me and Matt talking was we were talking about our grandmothers. He was telling the story about one of his brothers smarted off with his grandmother she took a rock and hit him in the back of the head. That sounded like something my grandmother Clara Thornton would do so we swapped grandmother stories. I had two very strong-willed grandmothers so we talked about them a lot. He talked about where he lived. His dad was in the Air Force so he has lived everywhere, from Michigan, Alabama, Texas, North Dakota, Arkansas and Tennessee. He has traveled all over the world as a Navy man so the stories were interesting. Matt wasn't going to stand in the way of my going to church.
Matt was saved after we were married. I knew I wasn't supposed to marry unequally yoked. I knew this, but I was so burnt out on men who wanted to use me, because I was on air to further their ministry. There had been a couple, I'd make a good "Preachers wife". Well back in 1987 God told me that I was to have me own ministry and I didn't have to walk behind someone carrying their Bible, that I would be in ministry. I had also taken a class called "Experiencing God". By the time Matt and I became interested in each other. I had had my share of fix ups. If he just had a good woman he'd quit drinking, etc. Now that doesn't work, whatever flaw they have when you meet them,. they will continue to have that flaw, unless God changes them. You cannot change anyone.
I really wouldn't advise to marry unequally yoked either, but the state of mind I was in when we started to date. He was refreshing. An honest to goodness gentleman, asking me what my interest were, what did I like or dislike. Sundays weren't a problem, he spent them with his grandmother anyway. She died before we got married. Matt was under conviction a good part of our marriage. He would fuss about tithing, so I tithed off of my income. One year we had to spend some money on a car repair and I had tithed my money, the next day the income tax refund was the exact amount of the car repair. He could see God moving in our lives. When I had the two eye surgeries he saw God's hand in all of that. The first surgery was paid for immediately, through donations. People heard about the surgery and would walk up and give me money. Someone rang the doorbell at home and handed me three hundred dollars and said that God told them to give it. God was at work all of this time.
I remember once before he went off to do his two weeks . The military reserve requires you to do a two week active duty hitch each year. He was having questions, I almost led him to the Lord then, with the Roman road. He just couldn't take that last step. He did take the Bible and read it during that time. When my mother died at the funeral, he really felt the Holy Spirit. He started laughing and crying, but still he didn't give his heart to the Lord. Things got really bad then, because I was so depressed after my mom died and then I had something to show up on a mamogram and had to have a biopsy. He almost left. I just kept praying. Then I asked someone who was a military man, what was I doing wrong. I live the same way and he told me that the way the military trains those who serve to surrender is not an option. This was deeper than I was thinking, so I got a prayer cloth and put it under his side of the bed and began to pray. One night Matt woke me up and said that he had repented for his sins and was saved. I was so excited I couldn't sleep the rest of the night. I didn't want to ask a lot of questions. When he came home from work that day he said,. I want to be baptized and I got a promotion. Matt was baptized in the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ that Sunday. I had explained the baptism in Jesus Name to him and he got it right away. I was standing in the kitchen washing dishes and I was explaining it to him and he got it. It was amazing. I love to see when people connect Gods word.
As for our families. Families are what they are. I was 41 and he was 39 when we married. We knew everyone wouldn't be overjoyed with our relationship. We didn't have any "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner," my mom had met Matt at one of the stations Christmas parties. She thought he was good looking. He wore his Navy uniform. She said he had a kind face. My dad met him later, but dads are a different breed. No one is good enough for their daughters. Since Sharon had just went through a nasty divorce, they were a little gun shy. The racial issue didn't come up. As long as someone treats you nice it didn't matter what race they were. When we were planning the wedding Matt asked his dad to be the best man. Their relationship began to get better. Matt's dad likes me . He thinks I am good for Matt. Matt's mom, she likes me OK. The brothers and Matt's sister like me. We aren't the "Waltons" or Jerry Springer either. Families are what they are, they are very protective of their siblings. They want someone who will provide for and take care of their son or daughter and not cause them any heartaches.
Marriage is hard work, happily ever after is not the absence of any problems or hardships. It is staying together when the bad things come. In our marriage we have dealt with job losses, financial problems, aging and sick parents, the loss of a parent, family issues. You just have to be committed. I love Matt and he loves me.
Matt and I worked together for at least five years before we started dating. In radio there are moments where everything is smooth and there are no problems, and then there are the times, that equipment doesn't work. Tempers flare and I think we had seen each other at our worst. Matt and Charlie Marlow were installing equipment and they both were sick and they wanted what ever it was installed right away and they had been up all night working. You just learn the temperment of a person. Matt doesn't like you asking a lot of questions while he is working on something. I had to learn that. My dad is the same way. We kept our romance away from the radio station. When we married we were on the air together for a while, we kept home and work separated. That is the way it had to be. In order for us to get along.
The other question was "How did he take the fact I was a born again Christian? Matt liked that I was committed to my faith. His grandmother was a strong Christian woman and he liked that about me. I was plain spoken and down to earth. Sometimes people are so "Heavenly minded that they are no earthly good". My being a Christian is as much a part of me as living. I don't act one way in church and a different way at home. I am not perfect. I make mistakes. What got me and Matt talking was we were talking about our grandmothers. He was telling the story about one of his brothers smarted off with his grandmother she took a rock and hit him in the back of the head. That sounded like something my grandmother Clara Thornton would do so we swapped grandmother stories. I had two very strong-willed grandmothers so we talked about them a lot. He talked about where he lived. His dad was in the Air Force so he has lived everywhere, from Michigan, Alabama, Texas, North Dakota, Arkansas and Tennessee. He has traveled all over the world as a Navy man so the stories were interesting. Matt wasn't going to stand in the way of my going to church.
Matt was saved after we were married. I knew I wasn't supposed to marry unequally yoked. I knew this, but I was so burnt out on men who wanted to use me, because I was on air to further their ministry. There had been a couple, I'd make a good "Preachers wife". Well back in 1987 God told me that I was to have me own ministry and I didn't have to walk behind someone carrying their Bible, that I would be in ministry. I had also taken a class called "Experiencing God". By the time Matt and I became interested in each other. I had had my share of fix ups. If he just had a good woman he'd quit drinking, etc. Now that doesn't work, whatever flaw they have when you meet them,. they will continue to have that flaw, unless God changes them. You cannot change anyone.
I really wouldn't advise to marry unequally yoked either, but the state of mind I was in when we started to date. He was refreshing. An honest to goodness gentleman, asking me what my interest were, what did I like or dislike. Sundays weren't a problem, he spent them with his grandmother anyway. She died before we got married. Matt was under conviction a good part of our marriage. He would fuss about tithing, so I tithed off of my income. One year we had to spend some money on a car repair and I had tithed my money, the next day the income tax refund was the exact amount of the car repair. He could see God moving in our lives. When I had the two eye surgeries he saw God's hand in all of that. The first surgery was paid for immediately, through donations. People heard about the surgery and would walk up and give me money. Someone rang the doorbell at home and handed me three hundred dollars and said that God told them to give it. God was at work all of this time.
I remember once before he went off to do his two weeks . The military reserve requires you to do a two week active duty hitch each year. He was having questions, I almost led him to the Lord then, with the Roman road. He just couldn't take that last step. He did take the Bible and read it during that time. When my mother died at the funeral, he really felt the Holy Spirit. He started laughing and crying, but still he didn't give his heart to the Lord. Things got really bad then, because I was so depressed after my mom died and then I had something to show up on a mamogram and had to have a biopsy. He almost left. I just kept praying. Then I asked someone who was a military man, what was I doing wrong. I live the same way and he told me that the way the military trains those who serve to surrender is not an option. This was deeper than I was thinking, so I got a prayer cloth and put it under his side of the bed and began to pray. One night Matt woke me up and said that he had repented for his sins and was saved. I was so excited I couldn't sleep the rest of the night. I didn't want to ask a lot of questions. When he came home from work that day he said,. I want to be baptized and I got a promotion. Matt was baptized in the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ that Sunday. I had explained the baptism in Jesus Name to him and he got it right away. I was standing in the kitchen washing dishes and I was explaining it to him and he got it. It was amazing. I love to see when people connect Gods word.
As for our families. Families are what they are. I was 41 and he was 39 when we married. We knew everyone wouldn't be overjoyed with our relationship. We didn't have any "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner," my mom had met Matt at one of the stations Christmas parties. She thought he was good looking. He wore his Navy uniform. She said he had a kind face. My dad met him later, but dads are a different breed. No one is good enough for their daughters. Since Sharon had just went through a nasty divorce, they were a little gun shy. The racial issue didn't come up. As long as someone treats you nice it didn't matter what race they were. When we were planning the wedding Matt asked his dad to be the best man. Their relationship began to get better. Matt's dad likes me . He thinks I am good for Matt. Matt's mom, she likes me OK. The brothers and Matt's sister like me. We aren't the "Waltons" or Jerry Springer either. Families are what they are, they are very protective of their siblings. They want someone who will provide for and take care of their son or daughter and not cause them any heartaches.
Marriage is hard work, happily ever after is not the absence of any problems or hardships. It is staying together when the bad things come. In our marriage we have dealt with job losses, financial problems, aging and sick parents, the loss of a parent, family issues. You just have to be committed. I love Matt and he loves me.
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