New Beginnings

     I never shared the rest of the story about what happened in the days after I lost my job.I have moved on, but seeing the pain that some of you are feeling I need to share. A loss of a job, is similar to other life changing events. Even though your head is OK, your body reacts to it in strange ways. There is a grieving process that you go though.  I went through it and about mid-October I was in full blown depression.  My father in law who is a retired PA advised me to not even seriously look for work for three months. He said I had to let my body relax and get my health in better shape. So I did.      When I came home that day , after losing my job, I called Vocational rehab. I made a few calls to my pastor, my sister and some friends.  Everyone was in shock. I didn't call my dad right away, because I wasn't sure how he would react. I didn't want him charging up there with a cane.  Matt came home to see if I was OK. I wa...

     My friend Amanda from high school. I just got back in touch with her .  I have other friends and a sister in law by the same name, they are my friends as well.  Amanda graduated from WWHS with me. I am not saying the year, because its been a long time.  Lets go back a few years...      It was the first day of my senior year in high school. I was looking forward to it. The last year of high school. The day was a disaster. It was the worst first day ever.  The styles had changed and I felt so out of style, there I was dressed in bib overalls and I had stopped wearing my wigs. Since eighth grade I had worn wigs to school, this year I decided to wear my own hair. It was short and curly. The dresses and skirts had gotten longer and I was still wearing things pretty short.  I was walking through the hall and I saw this girl. She was dressed in a long jean skirt and a white blouse. Her hair was long and I thought she was on...

     Someone once said the only thing constant is change. This was a time of many changes for Theresa Traynham.  There were many opportunities presented to her and she wasn't sure about her next steps. In her heart of hearts she wanted to be married and settle down with a family. It wasn't to be just yet.      Theresa found out from Nate why he ended their relationship years earlier. He said he was falling in love and wasn't ready to get married. OK. she thought, a simple explanation, but why had you been so secretive about it?  Theresa wasn't ready for marriage. That whole experience and the aftermath of it had been a growing experience for her. She was saving her money to buy a house. At one point she was going to get an apartment and her dad was telling her paying rent was giving someone money each month with nothing to show for it. So every month she put money into a savings account to buy a house.       Na...

     A New Year and Theresa had to face some challenges. College was more of a challenge than she realized. Working this term and going to school at night would be hard. The classes were harder and more time consuming. More responsibility at work and staffing problems made it hard sometimes to do well in school. School though was something she could focus on instead of the staff that was divided on -of all things- a contemporary Christian music program.      The program was called "Heartlight" and it was supposed to have youth groups supporting it was a challenge. The older people hated it and voiced their opinions on it.  Theresa had people to come in and take phone calls so the people on air wouldn't have to deal with negative phone calls. During that time she produced the album feature. She would do research one one of the top CCM albums and feature the album in three fifteen minute segments during the course of the three hour program. It...

     On Valentines Day I wrote the blog, "How I met My husband". Someone had some questions so I figured I would do a follow up to this.      Matt and I worked together for at least five years before we started dating. In radio there are moments where everything is smooth and there are no problems, and then there are the times, that equipment doesn't work. Tempers flare and I think we had seen each other at our worst.  Matt and Charlie Marlow were installing equipment and they both were sick and they wanted what ever it was installed right away and they had been up all night working. You just learn the temperment of a person. Matt doesn't like you asking a lot of questions while he is working on something. I had to learn that. My dad is the same way. We kept our romance away from the radio station. When we married we were on the air together for a while, we kept home and work separated. That is the way it had to be. In order for us to get al...

     My friend Penny and I talked for the first time in over a year. As we began to catch up on our news, she asked me about Matt.  She said "I think your love story is so cute, you were so in love with him and he was absolutely clueless" This is true. So let me tell you all how I met my husband.      Matthew Milam is a quiet man. I would say the strong silent type, who at times believes in expressing everything he is feeling at the moment.  He is a college graduate from Middle Tennessee State University with a Bachelor of Science in broadcasting, a Navy man, Desert Storm veteran, served a short hitch in the Air National Guard and in the Navy Reserve. He is from a military family and has lived everywhere.  He decided to cut his Navy career short after six years to come and help his mom.  He sent applications out and was hired at WJLS as an engineering assistant to help Charlie Marlow.  He came there in 1992.  I...

     With Stan gone Theresa was starting to do more at work. Every year there was a New Year's Eve concert at the local convention center and the question around the station was who would emcee the event. Theresa thought she was going to work with the church sponsoring the event, but some of the people at the radio  station acted like she didn't know what she was doing  There were other problems as well, one of the guys thought that she didn't have the talent to do the morning show. He tried to undermine her to the owner's wife and anyone else who would listen. This was a stressful time for Theresa who prayed for the spirit of discernment.      One Sunday morning when Theresa was working some of the ladies that had prayed with her before came up and prayed about the situation. It wasn't too long that one of the guys ended up leaving.  Theresa was still trying to find her way with more boldness. She felt the need to pray for people...