Forgiveness
To forgive is to grant pardon for an offense. It doesn't mean that the offense didn't happen or it didn't hurt you. It means that you release the person from the hurt or the offense that has been directed toward you or a loved one. This takes the power of the Holy Ghost. It is hard in the natural to forgive others, because you want them to pay for what they have done to you. It is not up to you to execute vengence upon those who hurt you or your loved one, it is God's job.
My dad is struggling with unforgivness at the moment. When we talked yesterday, I tried to explain to him that unforgivness hurts him more than the person or persons he is harboring these feelings toward. As I said in one of my blogs, my dad is an old school man, he doesn't understand how a man could walk away from his kids, because they turned 18. He didn't understand the mental abuse toward my sister inflicted on her by her ex-husband. There is no understanding this. All I can say is thank God Sharon survived. It wasn't easy, but through much prayer she did. How do you tell my dad that he needs to let God have these feelings... Because the person that inflicted these things on our family isn't worth going to hell over. We have tried to get along with him, but he doesn't want that. He wants an excuse to operate in his malfunction. He doesn't think he has done anything wrong, There is a trail of destruction in everything he touches.. The best thing to do is pray for him. We also realize that he will reap what he has sown... His day is coming.
I was praying one morning after I lost my job. The Bible says that we are supposed to pray for your enemies. When praying you don't pray curses on them, you pray for them. As God dealt with me to pray for them, I said "God, they hurt me , they tried to humiliate me. Then Jesus spoke "They did the same thing to me". So my prayer was "Father forgive them, they don't know what they have done". I hope my dad can get to that point. I guess it's hard seeing how my sister struggles to be a single parent and how things have turned out.
In 1987 I broke up with the man I thought I was going to marry. I went through a lot of mental abuse as well. I didn't want to break it off, because he was a minister. I had to, because it had come to a point, it was my mental health or him. I choose me. It hurt., but through that hurt God blessed me to get a house and set my life on a different course. I was talked about badly, but it was the right thing to do. The Lord told me then I was going to have a ministry, not walk behind someone else. I felt so unworthy and battered and bruised. My confidence was shot. I remember being outside and at the time there were kids living next door. I was planting grass seed, raking it in the soil. The kids started talking to me. God used those kids from a dysfunctional home to help me. When the grass came up I was amazed.
I've always liked Charles Stanley, he did a message on "How to forgive others from hurts we don't deserve". I listened intently. At the end, he said sometimes you can't go to the person that has hurt you, because either they have passed on or moved out of the area or it wouldn't work. What he suggested to do was get a chair, put the person in the other chair mentally. Say what you have to say about what they did and say, because of Jesus Christ, I forgive you. Well, I got the chair, carried it upstairs, mentally set my ex in the chair, said what I wanted to say. I even cussed a little. I asked God to forgive me for that, but then I said, because of Jesus Christ I can forgive you. There was such a release in my spirit. I could go on. I could even see them in public and speak.
As I said before, forgivness is not deneying what happened or the hurt it caused. It is being able to acknowledge the hurt, but because of the blood of Jesus you can forgive the person who wronged you. Unforgivness can kill you. As I said about the people at WJLS, they are not killing me. I forgive them.
They don't know that they were being used by God, not for my breaking, but for my good and for God's glory. Please pray for my dad....
My dad is struggling with unforgivness at the moment. When we talked yesterday, I tried to explain to him that unforgivness hurts him more than the person or persons he is harboring these feelings toward. As I said in one of my blogs, my dad is an old school man, he doesn't understand how a man could walk away from his kids, because they turned 18. He didn't understand the mental abuse toward my sister inflicted on her by her ex-husband. There is no understanding this. All I can say is thank God Sharon survived. It wasn't easy, but through much prayer she did. How do you tell my dad that he needs to let God have these feelings... Because the person that inflicted these things on our family isn't worth going to hell over. We have tried to get along with him, but he doesn't want that. He wants an excuse to operate in his malfunction. He doesn't think he has done anything wrong, There is a trail of destruction in everything he touches.. The best thing to do is pray for him. We also realize that he will reap what he has sown... His day is coming.
I was praying one morning after I lost my job. The Bible says that we are supposed to pray for your enemies. When praying you don't pray curses on them, you pray for them. As God dealt with me to pray for them, I said "God, they hurt me , they tried to humiliate me. Then Jesus spoke "They did the same thing to me". So my prayer was "Father forgive them, they don't know what they have done". I hope my dad can get to that point. I guess it's hard seeing how my sister struggles to be a single parent and how things have turned out.
In 1987 I broke up with the man I thought I was going to marry. I went through a lot of mental abuse as well. I didn't want to break it off, because he was a minister. I had to, because it had come to a point, it was my mental health or him. I choose me. It hurt., but through that hurt God blessed me to get a house and set my life on a different course. I was talked about badly, but it was the right thing to do. The Lord told me then I was going to have a ministry, not walk behind someone else. I felt so unworthy and battered and bruised. My confidence was shot. I remember being outside and at the time there were kids living next door. I was planting grass seed, raking it in the soil. The kids started talking to me. God used those kids from a dysfunctional home to help me. When the grass came up I was amazed.
I've always liked Charles Stanley, he did a message on "How to forgive others from hurts we don't deserve". I listened intently. At the end, he said sometimes you can't go to the person that has hurt you, because either they have passed on or moved out of the area or it wouldn't work. What he suggested to do was get a chair, put the person in the other chair mentally. Say what you have to say about what they did and say, because of Jesus Christ, I forgive you. Well, I got the chair, carried it upstairs, mentally set my ex in the chair, said what I wanted to say. I even cussed a little. I asked God to forgive me for that, but then I said, because of Jesus Christ I can forgive you. There was such a release in my spirit. I could go on. I could even see them in public and speak.
As I said before, forgivness is not deneying what happened or the hurt it caused. It is being able to acknowledge the hurt, but because of the blood of Jesus you can forgive the person who wronged you. Unforgivness can kill you. As I said about the people at WJLS, they are not killing me. I forgive them.
They don't know that they were being used by God, not for my breaking, but for my good and for God's glory. Please pray for my dad....
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